The eighth interview in the Desi Divorce Discussion series is completely honest, no-holds barred discussions with an amazing woman who has completely turned her life around after her divorce. Meet multi-faceted Reema Ahmad, author,  speaker, life coach, relationship and trauma counsellor.

Reema and I met on Facebook and she contacted me when she read my book Rewriting My Happily Ever After – a memoir of divorce and discovery, and was kind enough to leave a generous review on Amazon. Knowing that she was getting ready to launch her book shortly, I was keen on having her on the podcast. She happily agreed to do so despite her extremely busy life as an author of an unusual book, “Unparenting – Sharing awkward truths with curious kids”.

Reema’s life journey has been rough. Marrying for love at the young age of 21 only to realise son after that this was not going to work out, she spent many years sitting on the fence, hesitant to walk out. And when she finally did, the divorce process was long and hard and nerve-wracking. Finding strength to endure unending legal proceedings while trying to do the right thing, be fair even when falling apart and choosing the high road when all you want to do is rage at the unfairness of the situation is not easy. Yet, that is what Reema did, as you fill find out in this conversation.

Have you ever wondered how childhood trauma affects your choices as an adult?

In this brutally honest interview, listen to Reema’s story of falling apart and then finding her way back one step at a time to step into her power. She acquired two additional degrees, learnt about sexual abuse and how to help others as she raised her son as a single parent and became brave enough to write a book that touches on topics that no one wants to speak about.

Instead of perpetuating taboos and gender stereotypes, Reema’s book shows how parents can become the trusted adult that a child feels comfortable talking to about everything and thus allows a truly precious parent-child bond to develop, one that enables the blossoming of a growing child into kind, considerate, reliable citizen of the world.

Reema shares so much detail about her struggles but the main takeaways that stayed with me long after the conversations include:

1. We need to rediscover our inner compass and pay attention to it instead of over-riding it
2. Women are conditioned to choose pain, instead of choosing for joy
3. It is essential to ensure we keep our children safe from the negativity that can overpower us during a difficult divorce journey
4. We learn through relationships – they can hurt us, but they can also heal us

If you have wondered about how to rebuild your personal and professional life after divorce and raise your child in an unconventional but completely loving way, listen to Reema’s wise words and compassionate approach to life. You will feel thoroughly energised. Reema can be contacted at reema.ahmad@gmail.com for coaching sessions.

Whether you are thinking about divorce, have left an unhappy marriage or are curious about how women fare after divorce, do listen and let me know your thoughts.

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